Ex-NFL player and current on-air personality at NFL Network,
Darren Sharper has been arrested for two incidents of sexual assault in Los
Angeles in October 2013 and January 2014.
In addition, he is being investigated for sexual assault that allegedly occurred
in New Orleans in September 2013.
There are no details about the women who have made these
allegations. But I don’t need to know the details to see some concerns. The
accused is a black man, a professional athlete with some money and fame. He has
a public life, a good looking guy, with women everywhere who are more than
willing to do whatever it is that gets him off.
But, rape isn’t a crime about sex. It’s a crime about power
and privilege. Prisons are filled with sex offenders who, at first glance, are
attractive and “good catches”. Often times, these men are used to getting
whatever they want, from whoever they want.
I have a friend who is a New Orleans Saints fan. The years
that Sharper played there, and still today, she has a little crush on him. Her
reaction to the news of the arrest was not a surprise, and is probably quite
common. She said, in no uncertain terms, that she will believe this woman was
assaulted if she does NOT settle out-of-court for money. Wow.
Anyone who has been assaulted will tell you that reporting
the assault and everything afterwards is almost worse than the assault itself.
A woman’s sexual history, fashion sense, relationship choices, personality and
behaviors (does she drink? ever smoke anything? did she flirt? etc.) are
examined over and over and over. HIS past behavior is off limits… hers will be
on full display. Rape is one of the hardest, if not the hardest crime to
prosecute successfully. Even with DNA evidence, it often boils down to
he-said-she-said.
It’s a no-win situation for all parties involved. If they do
not prosecute him, it’s inevitable that the accuser(s) file civil actions. When
they do, the general public will assume they are liars and they are after the
money. If they do prosecute and he’s
acquitted, people will still always wonder if he did it. He will always have
the allegation of being a rapist hanging over his head. And the accuser(s) will
probably file civil actions under these circumstances too. And of course if he’s
convicted, he goes to prison, has to register as a sex offender for the rest of
his life, and she has to live with the rape for the rest of hers. Honestly, I will be shocked if there’s an
actual trial on the two rape charges in LA, and if anything transpires from the
investigation in New Orleans. I predict this will end up in civil court and
that there will be settlements reached.
But why believe the women are lying if they settle, and not
believe he’s the liar? I mean, if it
was me being accused of sexual assault, and I have the money to hire proper
legal representation, I am going to court. I am taking the risk that I will
lose, but no matter what the outcome of the civil action, I can always stand
tall and say “Hey! I didn’t do it, and I went to court to prove it!” By
settling, doesn’t he kind of admit that he’d rather pay whatever the settlement
is, than have his dirty laundry aired
in public? She’s willing to let it all out by bringing the civil action, so him
settling… doesn’t that make him the “bad guy” and not her?
Regardless, every false report of a sexual assault makes it
just that much harder for the next woman who really is assaulted to report. And
while I do not wish for any woman to have been raped, I hope these women are
not just “crying rape”.
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